When a loved one receives a cancer diagnosis, people i.e well-meaning family members but also random acquiances give (unwanted) advice; they say ‘you must be positive, you must be strong and its vital you keep your chin up’. However not once did anybody ever say you must have an infinite amount of patience because you will spend your life waiting, waiting in a kind of … Continue reading The Waiting
I have been ill since I was 10 years old (I’m currently 20) meaning I have had the time to experiment and discover what helps relieve my long-list of symptoms. The most notable symptom I have been successful in easing is nausea which absolutely plagued the early years of my illness. The most effective way I have found to keep my nausea in check is … Continue reading Privilege/Stupidity of forgetting a symptom.
Usually when people say stupid things to my mum and I, I politely make non-committal noises because I haven’t got the energy to correct them and I hate confrontation. However I wish I was more assertive like my mom who responses with the truth (often embarrassing me in the process), so I have wrote some of my responses here. ‘You look well!’ that would be … Continue reading Silly things people say – invisible illnesses
We knew when the hospital called him in three days early, what it was. However when it’s someone that you love your never willing to give up hope that it might be something else, absolutely anything else. People say ignorance is bliss, so the night you arrived with the woman who has loved you since the moment you were born, we chose to pretend nothing … Continue reading The Unspoken Word